美文欣賞：There are no mistakes, only lessons沒有錯誤，只有教訓

考研英語來源：文都教育 2017-07-04　

Human growth is a process of experimentation, trial, and error ultimately leading to wisdom.

人類的成長是一個經歷,試驗和最終失敗而引向智慧的過程。

Each time you choose to trust yourself and take action, you can never quite be certaion how the situation will turn out.

每次你選擇相信自己,開始采取行動時,你絕不會知道這個情況會如何。

sometimes you are victorious, and sometimes you become disillusioned.

又是你是勝者，但是有時你又會幻滅。

The failed experiments, however, are no less valuable than the experiments that ultimately prove successful; in fact, you usually learn more from your perceived "failures" than you do from your perceived "success".

然而，失敗的經歷遠遠高于成功，事實上，你從失敗里學到的比在成功里學到的更多。

If you have made what you perceive to be a mistake or failed to live up to your own expectations, you will most likely put up a barrier between your essence and the part of you that is the alleged wrong-doer.

如果你自責犯了一個錯誤或辜負了自己的期望，你將很可能在你成功和失敗之間豎起一道障礙。

However, perceiving past actions as mistakes implies guilt and blame, and it is not possible to learn anything meaning while you are engaged in blaming.

然而,為過去的行為內疚、自責都是錯誤的，當你在忙著自責的時候，它不會讓你學到什么。

Therefore, forgiveness is required when you are harshly judging yourself. Forgiveness is the act of erasing an emotional debt. There are four kinds of forgiveness.

因此，當你苛刻要求自己的時候，你需要原諒你自己。寬恕是一種消除情感負擔的行為，有四種寬恕：

The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself.

第一：從原諒自己開始。

The second of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another.

第二：原諒別人

The third kind of forgiveness is advanced forgiveness of yourself. This is for serious transgressions, the ones you carry with deep shame when you do soimething that violates your own values and ethics, you create a chasm between your standards and your actual behavior.

第三：再次原諒自己，這是最重要的，是隨時記住的,當你深深地感到羞恥,違反了自己的價值觀和倫理之間的鴻溝時，這是你自己的標準,你的實際行為。

In such a case, you need to work very hard at forgiving youeself for these deeds so that you call close this chasm and realign with the best part of yourself.

在這種情況下，你要努力的原諒自己的行為以致于你能填滿與最好的自己的鴻溝。

This does not mean that you should rush to forgive yourselfor not feel regret or remorse; but wallowing in these feelings for a protracted period of time is not healthy, and punishing yourself excessively will only creats a bigger gap between you and your ethics.

這并不意味著你應該急于原諒自己而不感到后悔或自責，但是很長一段時間總沉溺于這些感覺是沒有意義的，懲罰自己過度只會給你和你的道德制造更大的隔閡。

The last and perhaps most difficult one is the advanced forgiveness of another.

最后，比較難得就是再次被人原諒。

At some time of our life, you may have been severely wronged or hurt by another person to such a degree that forgiveness seems impossible.

有時候在我的生活中，你可能受到另一個人的嚴重傷害，似乎是不可原諒的。

However, harboring resentment and revenge fantasies only keeps you trapped in victim hood. Under such a circumstance, you should force yourself to see the bigger picture, by so doing, you will be able to shift the focus away from the anger and resentment.

然而，懷著怨恨和復仇幻想只讓你一直成為受害者。通過這樣做你必須強迫自己看到更大的圖景,你可以轉移你的注意力,不至于沉溺于怒火和仇恨之中。

It is only through forgiveness that you can erase wrongdoing and clean the memory. when you can finally release the situation, you may come to see it as a necessary part of your growth.

只有通過寬恕,你才能忘卻過錯,清理那些不堪的記憶。當你終于可以釋放時,你會認為這是一個必要的一部分你的成長。